Creating a great impression during the very first date is critical and seem like an overwhelming task for many.
But there’s no need to get nervous and impulsive in order to make a positive impression. In fact, you have to be natural (the real you) to find your best pair.
Do not make much homework or prepare like a maniac like you are going to attend the hardest interview in the country.
Just relax and focus on the visit’s purpose. Scheduling a date at a restaurant for a meal or dinner is a great idea because, the undefined silence breaks between the conversations can be avoided, and you have little buffer time to think what to ask next.
But wait, there’s nothing annoying than negotiating with a person with table manners. To master your first date, you have to be well aware of some essential table manners.
Must Have Table Manners for a Successful First Date
1. Don’t Eat With Your Full Speed
Of course, you have come to eat. But there is another purpose too. Try to keep the perfect balance between the conversation and eating. Eat slowly and sensibly, and make periodic eye contact with her/him to make both of you comfortable.
2. Suggest Sharing Instead of Separate Choice
If you are familiar with any particular dish in the restaurant you are sitting, pick that as the topic and suggest it to your date in a polite way, but don’t market it.
Also, sharing your favourite dishes, and feeling the tastes and priorities of both is one great way for bonding.
3. Don’t Talk About Unpleasant Subjects
Don’t talk about the horrible accident you saw on the way or any other disgusting topics that can turn aside the meeting purpose. The prime motive is to get into the poetic and calm environment.
Don’t spoil it. It’s like a drag race. If you make a mistake, in the beginning, you will surely crash!
4. You Guys Met For a Meal – Don’t Forget that
As said earlier, the meeting takes place in the restaurant. You are supposed to eat yourself. Men tend to hate when the women orders a light-snack just as a “formality”.
This behavior will make your date’s mood out, and make him/her feel deserted. So, take eating as the gap filler of your conversation and make your date feeling engaged.
5. Don’t Show Your “Attitude” to the Worker in the Restaurant
When negotiating with the restaurant staff, be polite. You don’t have to please him, but you don’t have to overreact or be harsh to them.
If you are nice to them, your date will be more comfortable with you and consider you as a person with compassion. This is a positive sign for the desired result.
6. Don’t Forget the Basic Civic Senses
Be prepared with your civic senses.
Be patient and eat with basic ethics. Scratching spoon or fork with the plates, and eating with your mouth open could end up in giving an impression that you have come from the age of barbarian.
Some people even get irritated when seeing a person who eats with chewing noise. Be careful about it.
7. Don’t Turn the Date into a Job Interview
The main motive is understanding between the both. The conversation should not be like a question and answer round. Instead of shooting multiple questions one by one, choose a mutual topic you are comfortable with and share perspectives.
You may ask about his/her job nature but not the salary. Asking about the salary as soon as you met might create a feeling that your date is materialistic in mind.
8. Don’t Get “Drunk”
It’s okay to have a one or two cocktails until your date is comfortable. You should not focus on getting high. You should not create an impression that you are substance dependent, and enjoy more on alcohol rather than real conversation.
This behaviour turns off women almost immediately, as they seek more attention of yours. So be sensible during the drink, have it in sips during the conversation.
The drink could be your success catalyst if you know how to handle it.
9. Don’t Say No to The Dessert
Last but not the least. Don’t say no to the dessert. People order for desserts if they really enjoy the dining. If you don’t want to have dessert, you are symbolically telling that you are not so happy with the date.
The key is being “original” with basic common sense and empathy. After all, you are looking for your life-long companion.
Share this with your friends who are pretty nervous with their first date.